我的艾莉（2）
She answers, her voice filled with annoyance, “How should I know?”
My daughter is off with friends most of the time. Yesterday was the last day she’d have until Christmas with her friend Katharine, whom she’s known since kindergarten. Soon, it will be her last day with Sarah, Claire, Heather... and then it will be her last day with me.
My friend Karen told me,“The August before I left for college, I screamed at my mother the whole month. Be prepared.”
I stand in the kitchen, watching Alie make a glass of iced tea. Her face, once so open and trusting， is closed to me. I struggle to think of something to say to her, something meaningful and warm. I want her to know I’m excited about the college she has chosen, that I know the adventure of her life is just starting and that I am proud of her. But the look on her face is so mad that I think she might slug1 me if I open my mouth.
One night—after a long period of silence between us—I asked what I might have done or said to make her angry with me. She sighed and said, “Mom, you haven’t done anything. It’s fine. ”It is fine—just distant.
Somehow in the past we had always found some way to connect. When Allie was a toddler. I would go to the day-care center after work. I’d find a quiet spot and she would nurse—our eyes locked together, reconnecting2 with each other.
In middle schoo1, when other mothers were already lamenting the estrangement they felt with their adolescent daughters. I hit upon a solution: rescue raids. I would show up occasionally at school, sign her out of class and take her somewhere—out to lunch, to the movies, once for a long walk on the beach. It may sound irresponsible, but it kept us close when other mothers and daughters were floundering. We talked about everything on those outings—outings we kept secret from f***ly and friends.
When she started high school, I’d get up with her in the morning to make her a sandwich for lunch, and we’d silently drink a cup of tea together before the 6: 40 bus came.
A couple of times during her senior year I went into her room at night, the light off, but before she went to sleep. I’d sit on the edge of her bed, and she’d tell me about problems: a teacher who lowered her grade because she was too shy to talk in class, a boy who teased her, a friend who had started smoking. Her voice, coming out of the darkness,